In Skillful Partnering, we demonstrate the value of energetic connection versus distancing to maintain our own Safety and Security while becoming more inclusive of others. We will provide simple tests to determine where current and potential partners meet. Since each Skill contains a particular way to bring out the best in each of us, the more Skills we possess, the more flexible we become. These skills are Aliveness, Wisdom, Growth, Playfulness, Personality Detachment, Autonomy, Paradox, Intuitive Discrimination, Intimacy, Mutual Learning, Physical Discernment and Co-Creativity. It is easy to see how they can contribute to balancing our experiences in our Selves and with others.