Idealization Sabotages Our Dreams

When we idealize, we fantasize about a future that never comes true. We fall into the pattern of believing that "only if" or "when" we reach a certain circumstance, will things be better. Idealization is projecting a false belief upon ourselves or another (because it makes us more comfortable), insisting that the false belief must be true. An idealization is a form of wish fulfillment, where our perspectives need to fall in order to simplify our lives. We choose and remain with partners by not accepting their negative attributes, only seeing and believing in their potential. This denial of the whole picture is what gets us in trouble. We believe (because we have the apparent same goals as our partners) that things will work out. Idealization delays us from challenging the status quo (and possibly creating conflict), and perpetuates both attachments and positions that ironically are contrary to what we want. We end up using these polarized emotional and intellectual perspectives to sabotage what we want. The result is anxiety, delays and confusion. To make matters worse, we seek guidance, acceptance and affirmation from the very people who wish us to remain confused.
Idealization keeps us from seeing our Beauty, Truth and Goodness. We are confused by outer attractive appearances, the illusion of power, and the glamour of being considered better than others. Idealization seems a quick fix because we justify that results are more important than the means or methods that we use to obtain the outcomes we seek. Idealization is an attachment to a principle at the cost of our creative spirit. When we idealize ourselves, our self-importance runs roughshod over others' rights and prerogatives. Idealization is used to justify poor ways of interacting with others and automatically insulates us from the negative effects of our judgments. When we idealize others, our negative self-image gets in the way of asserting our creativity and rights. In Idealization, we discount everything that does not make sense or does not match up with our aspirations. One result is choosing partners who will not work out or never were interested in us enough to commit.
Idealization can be neutralized by employing our creative consciousness. We need to recognize that shortcuts to results are actually roadblocks because we are not embracing the fullness of truth. We need to integrate our truth and construct it from many different sources. We need to accept our creative humanity and not fall into the trap of attempting to control others, including ourselves. Developing unity, a spacious context, transpersonal desires, and humility will transform our over-inflated egoic self-importance. Consider how much time and suffering you have had because of this problem to date. Is it time for a change?
This class can change the trajectory of your life. It does this when you accept your creativity and thereby the capacity to transfigure yourself and those you love. Of course, the cost is that you are going to have to give up your unconscious biases, false assumptions, and fantasies about how easy it should be. We need to be able to see both the positive and negative of everyone. It just takes awareness not to pre-judge ourselves or others. Are you basing your perspectives only on your body or mind? Or are you overdoing your emotions or underdoing your thoughts? If the answer is yes, then check out our Free Intro, where we talk about Idealization, so you can see it disappearing in the rearview mirror.

Class structure

    1. Healing Idealization ~ The Problem of Idealization

      FREE PREVIEW

    2. Healing Idealization ~ The Problem of Idealization ~ Audio

      FREE PREVIEW

    3. Healing Idealization ~ The Problem of Idealization ~ Guided Imagery

      FREE PREVIEW

    4. Healing Idealization ~ The Problem of Idealization ~ PDF

      FREE PREVIEW

    1. Class 1 ~ Idealization Denies Self-Love at its Core ~ Password: Loveistheanswer4every1!

    2. Class 1 ~ Idealization Denies Self-Love at its Core ~ Audio

    3. Class 1 ~ Idealization Denies Self-Love at its Core ~ Guided Imagery

    4. Class 1 ~ Idealization Denies Self-Love at its Core ~ PDF

    1. Class 2 ~ First Pair Of Opposites - Objectification ~ Password: Loveistheanswer4every1!

    2. Class 2 ~ First Pair Of Opposites - Objectification ~ Audio

    3. Class 2 ~ First Pair Of Opposites - Objectification ~ Guided Imagery

    4. Class 2 ~ First Pair Of Opposites - Objectification ~ PDF

    1. Class 3 ~ Second Pair Of Opposites - Subjectification ~ Password: Loveistheanswer4every1!

    2. Class 3 ~ Second Pair Of Opposites - Subjectification ~ Audio

    3. Class 3 ~ Second Pair Of Opposites - Subjectification ~ Guided Imagery

    4. Class 3 ~ Second Pair Of Opposites - Subjectification ~ PDF

    1. Class 4 ~ Third Pair Of Opposites - Idealization ~ Password: Loveistheanswer4every1!

    2. Class 4 ~ Third Pair Of Opposites - Idealization ~ Audio

    3. Class 4 ~ Third Pair Of Opposites - Idealization ~ Guided Imagery

    4. Class 4 ~ Third Pair Of Opposites - Idealization ~ PDF

    1. Class 5 ~ Types of Idealization - Others & Self ~ Password: Loveistheanswer4every1!

    2. Class 5 ~ Types of Idealization - Others & Self ~ Audio

    3. Class 5 ~ Types of Idealization - Others & Self ~ Guided Imagery

    4. Class 5 ~ Types of Idealization - Others & Self ~ PDF

About this class

  • $495.00
  • 28+ hours video lessons
  • Includes audio, PDFs & guided imagery processes

Instructor

Founder, Higher Alignment Larry Byram

My name is Larry Byram, the founder of Higher Alignment. Over the last 40 years we have worked with over 30,000 couples and a larger number of singles to assist you in building conscious co-creative relationships. We invite you to explore and embody your unique creative design in your relationships and life contribution.

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