Defenses provide a superficial framework of identity about who we think we are. Most of us do not separate defenses from our greater creative identity, the result being that we become creatively submerged and over-identified with how others’ reactions (towards us) define us. Defenses are constructed from reactive experiences where we have become entangled in the fears and desires of others. There is an irony that until we consciously step into our own Creative Nature it is the debris and history of our actions that define our personality characteristics.
There are three patterns of self-denial: Objectification, Subjectification and Idealization. Objectification is the fixation upon outer form so we deny our life energy by seeing only outer Beauty. Subjectification is the identification with superficial beliefs so we deny our inner light, or wisdom and disregard our Truth. Idealization is the notion that who we are is reactive selfish beings so we need to hide our egoic personality importance by demonstrating our false humility and Goodness. The maximization of these three defensive distortions produces Co-Dependence.
Unfortunately, we soon learn how difficult it can be when we are not aligned in our actions, thoughts and passions. Co-Dependence is also a set of compromises that distort our ability to be present with others fully. The result of Co-Dependence is that over time it undermines our Autonomy, minimizes Intimacy and prevents conscious relationships.
It is our premise that each individual is a source of Life, Light and Love.
As we each confront our defensive shadows (the denial of Life/Through Excitement and Inertia, Light/Through Intensity and Competition or Love/Through Anxiety and Resistance), we discover internal resources that support us in unexpected and powerfully creative ways. Within our design there is a natural evolution where gradually we embody our Beauty, Truth and Goodness. Expressing our creative nature is the fast path to this. This discussion is for those who are choosing to engage their inner defensive obstacles so they can become fully resourced and creative human beings. The main obstacles we encounter are inaccurate self-perceptions that reinforce and attract compromised ways of being with others. This process requires letting go of attachments to doing, unlearn rigid, protective, egoic, intellectual positions and clarify our motivations so we can be of greater service. It is a call to those who want to be natural contributors and who wish to grow with others willing to engage their lessons directly. As always, it is not for the feint of heart or those who would rather be window shoppers instead of committed participants because the experience can be terrifying and demanding beyond belief. It requires reexamination and deconstruction of our personality defense structures so we can recover our authentic capabilities.
There are three Defensive Shadows that reflect the inner disconnection of Life, Light and Love.
When we disconnect from our Life energy, we get caught up in Excitement while trying to please others. When we disconnect from our Light energy, we get caught up in Intensity, which is the attempt to prove that what we know is more or better than what others know. When we disconnect from our Love energy, we get caught up in Anxiety and believe we have to fix the world. The primary indication that we are disconnected from our Creative Self is personal Inertia, Competition and Resistance (discounting respectively—Life, Light and Love). Each distortion compounds our difficulty when operating in the world. These distortions (what we call shadows) are formally known as Objectification, Subjectification and Idealization; words that are self-limiting and judgmental. Objectification minimizes the power of Life energy by making our self and others small. Subjectification is the imposition of one person’s reality (either emotional or intellectual) upon another with the intention of imposing our will over them. Idealization is a fixation on an external ideal or goal at the cost of our goodness and humanity. These three defensive shadows create dualistic perceptions that sabotage our ability to contribute and be Co-Creative.
We become distracted (by connecting to others using Excitement, Intensity and Anxiety) and separate ourselves to avoid the experiences of Inertia, Competition and Resistance.
While others may see these qualities in us, it is hard (when caught up in them) to accept how they sabotage our lives. What is unnoticed is when judging others based on their appearance, ideas or ideals, it diverts us from being responsible for our experience. Instead, we blame others for their Inertia, Competition or Resistance. Objectification, Subjectification and Idealization prevent us from being in our power and present. They sabotage our ability to engage others in co-creative ways. The shadows also represent disconnections between our Sensations, Feelings, Emotions and Thoughts. We'll discusses how we create isolated realities using these defensive shadows. Consider to what degree the defensive shadows of Inertia, Competition and Resistance are now a part of your life. We will also present ways to neutralize the shadows so our lives can be more enriched, aligned and self-generating.
Class structure
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Recognizing Objectification ~ Password: ObjectNoMore
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Recognizing Objectification ~ Audio
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Recognizing Objectification ~ PDF
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Recognizing Subjectification ~ Password: SubjectMeNot!
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Recognizing Subjectification ~ Audio
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Recognizing Subjectification ~ PDF
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Recognizing Idealization ~ Password: idealizeNomore
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Recognizing Idealization ~ Audio
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Recognizing Idealization ~ PDF
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Recognizing Co-Dependence ~ Password: NoCoDepend2018
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Recognizing Co-Dependence ~ Audio
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Recognizing Co-Dependence ~ PDF
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About this course
- $175.00
- 10+ hours video lessons
- Includes audio & PDFs
Instructor
Founder, Higher Alignment Larry Byram
My name is Larry Byram, the founder of Higher Alignment. Over the last 40 years we have worked with over 30,000 couples and a larger number of singles to assist you in building conscious co-creative relationships. We invite you to explore and embody your unique creative design in your relationships and life contribution.